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Stop Keeping Score

February 3, 2015

Ephesians 4:31-32 (NLT) “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”

That’s what Pastor Boris Joaquin cited last January 25, 2015 at Ikthus Bacolod about the Road to Recovery. I remember him sharing about his troubled relationship with his dad; how he masked his bitterness with success; how he always says he and his dad is okay when in truth, he resented him. I also remember him saying that forgiving someone takes time; that we need to forgive others because God has forgiven us and resentment just doesn’t work. “It’s not really what you eat but what eats you that matters.”

I’m very much closely acquainted with resentment. And though I’ve dealt with countless ugly events in my life, I’ve mustered burying them in a large vacuum at the bottom of my brain, compiled and kept. Problem is, this void is open, unchained, so tendency is, at the height of various, triggering moments, they resurface. And guess who is left frustrated? Me.

When there is resentment, everything gets affected. All your energy tend to focus on that one thing, that one nonsensical thing that you so obviously could do without and the more important things are left neglected and unappreciated.

You haven’t truly forgiven if there is still resentment in your heart. To forgive is to free your heart from any bitterness that you’ve harbored from the ones that hurt you. Yes it will take time, and eventually, I know I will get there. For now, I’m settled with “I’m doing fine.”

Sharing Day 241 of the reading plan I am currently on from http://www.joycemeyer.org/ Joyce Meyer: Promises for Your Everyday Life – a Daily Devotional

Stop Keeping Score

If someone has hurt you, don’t spend the next ten years of your life hurting yourself by hanging on to that offense. Most likely, the other person isn’t even thinking about you, while you dwell on the incident for years. That only hurts one person, you.

When we walk in unforgiveness, we try to “keep score,” viewing ourselves as better than the other person.

Back in the early days of our marriage, when Dave and I were fussing and fuming at each other, I would bring up stuff that happened years before and Dave would say, “Where do you keep all that stuff?” Well, I had a place, and it was all in there eating at me. And every new thing Dave did wrong would get added to this list, and it kept growing until it became a bitter giant in my heart.

When we walk in God’s love, we find freedom by keeping “no account” of wrongs done to us. If you’re hurting from the pain of unforgiveness today, ask God to help you stop keeping score. You can let go of your bitterness today.

Prayer Starter: God, I don’t want to keep score anymore and let my unforgiveness hurt me. I release it to You and ask You to help me walk in Your love, which keeps “no account of the evil done to it.”

It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭5‬ NLT)

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Why speak the Truth

August 5, 2014

People nowadays don’t even bother to rationalize what they truly believe in or even try to perceive what is real and they end up building their entire lives on beliefs that are simply not true. Whatever is conventionalized or trending or desirable suddenly becomes truth to them.

So often times they live a misled life, they cater to ludicrous principles, they make do with what they are at present, the present being them chasing what is far beyond their reach, neglecting to see facts that are constantly lobbed at them and decide to act on ridiculous choices that will eventually destroy them. Unconsciously they are aware but in constant denial of their having too much incredible ambitions.

These people then start to lie. They begin to keep secrets. They morph into totally different characters. Because they are trying to keep up with the demands of the world they’ve speciously created to feed their own desires and expectations. They become selfish and self-absorbed and hurtful and deceitful and pathetic.

For the reason that they refuse to see and accept the truth. Truth in what they do, what they speak of, what they believe in, what they try to live on. And in due time, they are found out.

These people fail to see that in truth, cliche as it is, they are set free.

For in truth, they are able to trust and be trusted. In order to be successful in anything, a person must have a reputation of honesty. And in living a life of integrity you build on good relationships. Respect is gained.

Almost daily, one of our greatest stressors is the degree to which we should be honest. In truth, there is peace.

Believing what others say rather than exploring the truth for yourself will actually limit you and even keep you from doing what it is you are supposed to do. But if you contend for the truth, embrace it and build your life upon it, you will succeed in every endeavor.

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Ideal vs. Real

July 1, 2013

Those mental images, concepts, ideas of perfect…

When we were young, we believed we had it all figured out. The ideal life, the ideal job, the ideal boyfriend, the ideal husband, the ideal house, the ideal car, the ideal family…

You work at it, then life begins and you suddenly realize you got it all wrong. You try and try to reach that ideal but then reality strikes and you find out you just can’t win. So you build up this fantasy world to shield yourself from the pain, to guard against a mind about to collapse, a heart ready to explode.

Some shy away from everything they know, trying to avoid keeping up a brave face because truth is, everything is just broken.

Some stand at the edge of the rail, looking back and contemplating to jump.

Others put a bullet through their head.

Sometimes you have this fluttering feeling, a kick that says someone’s life depends on you and all you are left to do is lock yourself in some secluded place and start to cry.

We then start to ask, how did we end up here? Would we rather live a boring but normal life or a colorful but complicated life?

Where we end up are the results of the choices we’ve made while we journey on. We need to recognize the difference between what is ideal and what is real. We are the authors of our own books, we write our pages. If your ideals fail you, refocus. See reality, make do of what is in front of you, focus on things that matter most. Block away the trauma and move on. Easier said than done but realize it’s just tears and rain in a day of your life. There is still a great chance tomorrow might be sunny.

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