Posts Tagged ‘sisters’

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34th | Birthday Encore

August 14, 2018

Stick with the people who pull the magic out of you, not the madness.

Vacation from my vacation (lol).

My best friends are home and it’s been too long since we’ve been together in one place, us four, so no matter how exhausted and hungover and sun burnt I was, I just had to fly over because it’s always refreshing to be with my walking diaries and I needed to write down a few more stories. 😂

But first…

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Ramen Nagi date with this one 😂

From a week long of drinking to a weekend of tea dates. I look like shit hahaha 😂

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It was just a weekend of catching up and swimming parties and pool wars and competitive racing and cards against humanity and heads up. 😂

And we were 10 again.

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Only SSA-B 2001 would get this. 😂 Love you Lexiepoo ❤️

Hung out with Tita Chiqui at her cafe, Tilde in Poblacion. Best merienda place, everything is just so yummy!

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And dinner with these lovely ladies.

Fourth grade all over again (plus two pitchers of Mango Mojito, one pitcher of Sangria, one bottle of Cabernet and one bottle of Cuervo).

 

Short but sweet, I still have sepanx up to now. No dull moments here. Thank you so much for the weekend! I’m missing you guys already. ❤️

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xx

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Of Celebrations of Life and Goodbye Kisses

April 10, 2017

After a long and tiring week, de-stress weekend up the mountains. It was a birthday celebration and a bon voyage to two of our dear friends.

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Happy birthday April!

And this kid wanted to explore.

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Happy kids!

Again, happy birthday April and safe travels Mary Rose!

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xx

 

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31st

August 14, 2015

The initial plan was to climb Mt. Pulag for the weekend but then the weather did not permit us to do so. Was devastated, maybe a bit. Thank you so much Hanna! Will have to reschedule this one some other time I guess.

So what went down…

Since we already had tickets, Pam and I flew out to meet the other half in Manila.

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This was the closest we got to that sea of clouds we were supposed to see that weekend.

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So it was Friday and when we arrived everyone was still at work. Dropped off our stuff at Joby’s place since we were crashing there. Was famished, roamed around BGC to find somewhere to eat that’s just near. This was late lunch at Persia Grill, the interior was very pretty, food was good.

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Had coffee and chilled for a bit at the nearest Coffee Bean before we went back to Joby’s condo. I finished my book while Pam caught up with work before we met up with everyone else.

Friday night tip: should make reservations waaaaaaaay ahead if you want to get a table. Had ours at Barcino. Wine and Spanish food. Complete attendance!

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I can’t quite remember what food we ordered but I believe it was good. What I remember though was having two bottles of really good Shiraz at 13%. Though this may be normal for wine, it’s actually below average for a Shiraz, I’m a lightweight so 13% is pretty strong for me. Don’t judge.

Not sure what was going on here but yeah, blaming it on the wine.

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That’s my very pretty friend right there. She and her team made the most recent Nestle Chuckie tv commercial and I’m hella proud of her!

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Passed by Reserve and Tipsy Pig but was on wait list. Ended up at Burgers and Brewskies. No more wine for me, just my ever reliable Jack D. (On a much sober note, their burgers are really good, like really really good. Big, fat, juicy, generous, delicious, gaaahd.)

Ended our night with Ministop chicken and fried wantons and sharksfin for takeout. I miss! I think this was the highlight of my night (hahaha).

Road trip the next day, off to Tagaytay for lunch.

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Played heads up to kill time. Traffic was not that heavy. Passed by a number of lambos on the way, might have been 6 or 8 of them, not sure if they were from a show. Twas cool to watch as they drove by really fast, one after the other, in different colors. It was really foggy when we arrived, but then again there’s a storm so, yeah. No view, all we saw was fog. I think everyone’s fog lamps were on. Sky Ranch was off the list, what a bummer.

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BUT! lunch at Breakfast at Antonio’s made up for it.

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Blueberry Heaven! I die.

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Had coffee at Starbucks after, the one on Calamba Road beside Country Suites, where it’s supposed to have an incredible view of the Taal lake and volcano. Unfortunately, I didn’t get any good photos because 1. It was packed and we didn’t have a decent spot for a view and 2. It was really foggy.

It cleared when we were homebound, round 5pm-ish I think.

The mandatory Taal volcano picture. That’s an active volcano right there.

Went straight to Draft when we arrived in Makati. That’s a liter of beer for each of us. Or was it just me and Joby?

On Sunday, after having lunch at JT’s, I met up with Mary Rose at Market Market to buy some stuff for the kids. We got stranded in High Street, it was raining really hard and found a bit of an excuse to have coffee and catch up on the latest gossip, though I was running late for dinner.

This was dinner at Miel’s Tita Chiqui’s pad. Yellow Cab and four bottles of wine. Was trying really hard to get my senses intact.

Though what we initially planned, due to unforseen (raaaar) circumstances, didn’t push through (no Mt. Pulag, no manghuhula), I had an awesome birthday weekend because what really mattered was getting together with the other parts of me.

I had five cakes on my birthday!

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And celebrated with those closest to my heart ❤️

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xx

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What I learned from TV

September 15, 2014

For those who know me, I’m not a tv or a movie person. I’ve been watching a lot of movies lately though, well, watching what my kids have been watching and it’s amazing how you get to learn a lot of things from these movies. My kids are aged 10 and 9 so I’m not really sure if  they actually learn something or maybe they just watch because it is entertaining or interesting, but, well, it somehow had me thinking.

They’ve recently watched Smurfs 2, Epic, Percy Jackson: Sea of Monsters and Frozen (that’s a lot of movies for me!). And one thing these movies has subliminally pointed out is the importance of family. Papa Smurf going after Smurfette when she was kidnapped by the Naughties; Mary Katherine and her father’s reconciliation; Hermes’ acknowledgement of Luke and his endless effort in trying to reach out to him; Percy Jackson accepting his half-brother despite their differences; Anna continuously pursuing Elsa, never giving up on her sister despite being brushed off and pushed away. Family ties are upheld and applauded in these movies.

One constant point these movies has also captured and I guess is trying to promote is that you never give up on family.

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We all have that one (or two, or more) member of our family who is well, somehow “different“. It could be a husband, a daughter, a brother, a cousin, or whoever you consider as family; there will be that someone who will be called the “black sheep“. Why so? Maybe because this person’s views does not settle well with the rest of the family’s; or maybe this person has done something that would fall between stupid and unforgivable; or maybe this person is confused and drowned his self into intoxicating elements* because he believes the family will not understand or he has really low self-esteem; or maybe this person has done something that shamed the family; or maybe this member pushed away the family, renounced the family, acting arrogant and ungrateful; it goes on.

(*Intoxicating elements doesn’t necessarily have to be alcohol or drug related. Remember, online shopping is also intoxicating, get what I mean..)

And because this person did a lot of undesirable things and hurt us to the extent that you could not even begin to describe what to feel, does this mean that it is right to abandon them and simply give up on them?

Well, it totally depends. It totally depends on what you feel is appropriate. If you feel that you need to cast out the black sheep, by all means, do so.

But let us go back to what God teaches us about sheep.

In the parable of the lost sheep, there was a man who had a hundred sheep. Every morning he took them from the fold (a place where they stayed at night) on a hillside and led them to new, fresh pastures. Later in the day he would bring them to a quiet stream, or, if there wasn’t any stream nearby, he would draw water from a well for them to drink. At night the good shepherd took them up the hill again to the fold. Everyday the sheep followed the shepherd wherever he took them. He called them by name and they came to him. Every night he would count them to make sure they were all there.

One night one little sheep was missing. Somehow it had strayed away and became lost. If the shepherd left it and didn’t go look for it, it would surely be killed by some wild animals. The shepherd did not want to leave it. He left the other sheep and went to find it. He went searching until he found the lost one. (Matthew 18:12-13) When he found it, it was tired, hungry and cold. The good shepherd put the little sheep on his shoulder and carried it back to the fold. He did not scold it, but he rejoiced and was very happy that he had found the little sheep.

(Lesson 44: The Parable of the Lost Sheep)

The Shepherd represents the family and the lost sheep is well the “black sheep”. Do we even know what it’s like to lose our bearing and to be hopelessly adrift in uncertainty? To be alone, lost and disoriented without a sense of direction is one of the worst fears we can ever encounter. Somehow, lost black sheep are very well acquainted with this feeling.

Smurfette is not Papa Smurf’s daughter but he treated her as his own. And when she was lost, Papa Smurf went after her, searched for her to bring her home. When he found her, she was all bad and naughty, just as what she was created to be but he still pursued her, believed that there is a part of her that is good, that she is better than what she is supposed to be. Papa Smurf did not give up on Smurfette.

Elsa froze all of Arendelle. She continuously pushed Anna away. But Anna believed that her sister is not the monster that everyone perceives her to be so she didn’t give up in reaching out to her, she went after her and pursued bringing her home, assuring Elsa that everything will be okay, that she is more than her fears, and that she could undo whatever damage she has done. Anna cared, always uplifting the good she found in Elsa and she loved her unconditionally, to the point that she more so willingly gave up her own life to save her sister.

A Pastor I met for counseling once told me that as long as there is life, there is hope and when there is hope there is a chance for change. If it is still savable, save it. God is our redeemer, and God saved us from all the sin of the world.

Apparently, the family is your loudest doorknocker, they will force you to open your doors. They will scold you or punish you cruelly for the stupidest, unthinkable mistakes, but having said that, the family presumably will never leave you alone or throw you out of their lives. Psychologically speaking, this forgiving nature will keep a lost sheep, a Smurfette, an Elsa, from committing further mistakes.

We are all anchored to our families. They make us who we are. If one wanders lost, search and save. Because ideally, you never give up on family.

Family. Blood related or not, they are your security blanket, your protection, your madness, your home, your unconditional love.

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Well, that’s a whole lot of learning from watching TV.

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“For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost.” Luke 19:10

“For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and now is found.” Luke 15:24

(Photo courtesy: Tumblr, Goodreads)

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June Bride

June 18, 2014

“Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not insist on its own way. Love bears all things, believes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.” 1 Corinthians 13

Marriage is not about the overly sized petticoats or the giant peonies or the Jimmy Choo shoes.

It’s not also about the Lancome finished makeup or dreamland reception with all the drapes and hanging lanterns and cherry blossoms.

No it’s not.

Marriage is a commitment. A promise supposedly made by two people “in-love” to be together in what they believe is called “forever” (despite whatever odds or something like that). For richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.

Marriage starts after your wedding day; when you wake up the day after drunk (or sober) beside your partner with smeared makeup and messy, sticky hair and you find him still looking at you longingly, smiling with an I’m-so-lucky kind of look.

And you move in together into a new house that you will eventually build into a home. That is WHEN you both start living.

Yes, you will discover a lot of things about each other and you will not like some (or all) of them, but you will eventually learn to live with it and settle into a new kind of normal only the two of you understand.

Yes, life afterwards will not be what you’ve expected. You both will have to learn to adjust. You will fight a lot of times over the littlest and most unreasonable things (like shower curtains or squeezing toothpaste or tile colors or who makes breakfast), these are inevitable.

Yes, there will come a time that you find your self asking if you’ve made the right decision, questions like “What the hell am I doing in this relationship?” or if who you are with now is really “the one” are normal. We all have our own shortcomings and no one is perfect in marriage. There will be times when one may fail the other, mess up, or do something hurtful.

No, marriage is not your fairytale come true. BUT marriage is making a fairytale come true with someone you’ve chosen to spend the rest of your life with.

You see, it is not about you anymore. It is about you AND your partner. It’s a work in progress and a learning process and it requires BOTH of you.

How do you make it work?

You find out along the way.

But keep this in mind:

You both deserve someone who will be there for you, who has your back and takes your side, who takes care of you, looks after you; someone willing to sacrifice for you and fight for you; someone who believes in you, encourages you, pushes you not to stop dreaming and brings out the best in you; someone who doesn’t walk out on you during difficult situations; someone who stays simply because he choose to.

Be that person.

Be honest, brutally honest. Do not keep secrets, do not lie. Understand and compromise. Voice out. LISTEN. Pay attention to details. Involve each other. Be each other’s cheerleader, counselor, critic, nurse, confidante and best friend. Be each other’s priority. Be considerate, always. Be selfless. Watch your words, you will never be able to get them back. Be patient with each other, you do not think alike. Appreciate, even the littlest things, especially the little things.

It doesn’t hurt to say good morning and good night. It’s never too much to tell each other I love you everyday. Enjoy each other’s company. Make each other feel beautiful. Hug, kiss, cuddle.

Be random. Go on trips, travel, discover something new together. Experiment. Surprise each other. Be spontaneous.

Most importantly, have a spiritual life together. Go to church or prayer meetings or subscribe to reading plans. Feed your souls. Be blessed. When God is at the center of your marriage, grace pours in and believe that everything will come easily.

You never know who is that someone you are destined to be with. But trust in fate’s decision in bringing you together. There is always a reason we meet the people we meet eventhough sometimes we may not know why. There are no coincidences. Build on “together moments,” your happy times will be your anchor during the most trying days.

Always remember you deserve to be with someone who loves you. Love deeply and wholly. Set aside the clashing personalities, the twisted principles, the different point of views, if you are truly confident with each other’s love, you two will get along just fine.

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Marriage: If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently. You shield it and protect it. You never abuse it. You don’t expose it to the elements. You don’t make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished, you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new. It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by. – F. Burton Howard

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